The world’s most perfect teenager turned 18 last September and overnight disappeared from all my banking apps, healthcare apps and just about everything else.

The only thing he hasn’t disappeared from is our insurance and the school app, which I still have access to until he graduates this summer. And honestly… I’m ridiculously grateful for that. I’m clearly not ready to stop being his mom in that way just yet.
He’ll always be my baby — no matter how tall he gets or how old he turns.

Eight years ago we got a letter from Social Services in Stockholm that made my stomach drop.

I tore it open in the dimly lit entrance hall by the mailboxes and tried to read it without my glasses. When that failed, I sprinted up the stairs to my husband.

The letter asked why our son wasn’t enrolled in school — even though school is compulsory in Sweden.

We had just switched him to the school he still attends today. We assumed the schools would handle the transfer and register him automatically when they applied for funding.

Turns out this school was completely private. And of course it was our job to notify the authorities.

For a few terrifying minutes I genuinely thought social services were coming to take our son.In the end, the only ones who had dropped the ball… were us.

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